A Not-So-Private Conversation

It's stupid. It's hateful. Donald Sterling's remarks have proven to disgust many people and rightfully so. But, there's an aspect to this story that most people are not talking about. His privacy. These were conversations that took place between two people in the privacy of a home. Not on the job, not in public.

So, it begs the question. Since when is it a problem to express opinions, even racist ones, privately? According to his girlfriend, V. Stiviano, he asked her to record conversations because he kept forgetting what he said. Did he also ask her to leak them to the world? Doubtful. Evidently, she is seeking revenge, some say, due to his public approval of his ex-wife's lawsuit against Stiviano, claiming she stole money from Sterling.

Question is:  if she so despised his prejudices, (as a minority herself), why was she with him? It seems there is more than one loathsome aspect to think about here; aside from his racism, it was her exploitative tactics of revealing it to the world, and turning private conversations into very public ones. Now that's very troubling.